Of course, this may sound easy but you have a choice in what thoughts you focus on.
The elite young athlete: strategies to ensure physical and emotional health
How can you possibly perform your best if you only focus one-third of your attention in the current competition? Paying attention to previous mistakes is frivolous especially when your focus is best spent on the present moment where you can really make a difference. Denis Shapovalov is a rising tennis star whose recent performance during the Rogers Cup shot him up the ATP rankings from to around 67th. The thing that has brought Shapovalov a lot of recent attention is a mistake he made six months ago at the Davis Cup….
Shapovalov smashed a ball away in frustration that accidentally struck the umpire in the eye. What I did was very stupid. It was very immature. Past mistakes or even within the current game or match are over… You need to get over them too.
The Mental Emotional Tennis Work Book: Blunders and Cures on Apple Books
Choose to focus on the brand new opportunity right in front of you and make the most of it. Learn all my strategies for composure and letting go of mistakes with The Composed Athlete audio and workbook program:. Powerful strategies for learning a composed mindset can be developed, but you must first strip away the mental ball and chains that prevent you from having instant composure when you need it.
How much better would you perform if you have total confidence and composure to perform your best in crunch-time? Keep up the good work…you are the best mental coach. He got his first out-of-the-park home run and is scoring lots of doubles. He has a totally new attitude thanks to you! Because eventually you need to get kids aligned with reality, so they don't create limiting beliefs like He is a higher ranked player so I cannot beat him or I made a double fault so my second serve sucks. This is what I call "acceptance. It means accepting that your wants and wishes may not come true soon not today, tomorrow, or whenever but you keep trying.
Eventually you need to shut down your thinking and just play. A player needs to enter the zone for best performance, where there is no thinking and no mental skills.
In the zone you don't control your arousal, you don't monitor your thoughts, you don't need to take time to breathe and let go of the tension, you just play. So, eventually, a player must learn not to think but to play automatically, to just notice some tactical patterns and adjust accordingly. It's quite a journey to this stage, but it happens now and then even when a player is young. For the end, I would like to add some of my thoughts on this matter. Since I've been working as mental coach for tennis players for some years now, I've often been approached by parents who said that their child needs help in the mental game.
And I agree, since the mental game is a challenging one, and children need guidance and support to master it. But not many parents realize that it is THEIR behavior that is the cause of major mental weaknesses of their child. It is the parents who need to work on their mental game in order to help their children. They need to be confident, to trust in their child, to control their emotions, to think positively and to accept reality even when it's not to their liking. Children are very strongly influenced by their parent's behavior and emotional responses, much more influenced than by their parent's talk, especially if they detect a difference insincerity between the parent's talk and real feelings.
It's a journey for both a tennis parent and a tennis junior player. It's not about fixing your child's faults or weaknesses, it's about accepting and loving children as they are. They will improve by themselves. All the best in your tennis journey, Tomaz Below is the reply of the tennis parent emailing me a couple of months later and we can all learn from it: Dear Tomaz, I read your reply to my email back in June and I thought long and hard about it.
I must admit that you were right. I was my son's problem without realising it. I put a lot of pressure on him to perform well, and this pressure prevented him from enjoying his tennis. As a result he was underperforming. Since your answer, I tried many different things, some of which worked out well and some which did not. But I feel that in my very short experience as a failed tennis parent, I am becoming very wise and can share with you some of this knowledge that I have acquired.
In villages, people came together to dance during holidays. Religious groups, particularly, in their early days use muscular bonding, as do cults, armies, dictatorial movements, and similar attempts to create strongly unified groups. The one downside is that the lack of available evidence for the topic means the author is forced to make a lot of unfalsifiable guesses and assumptions, though this is more a flaw in the source material than in the writing. First of all: this is not a book about tennis.
Gallway argues that we play both the inner and outer game. The outer game may be against an opponent, but the innter game is against ourselves; our insecurities, our distracted minds, our self-doubt. Unless we can learn to win the inner game, we will never know true victory. One key to this, Gallway believes, is to stop trying so hard or receiving overly detailed feedback.
He also believes in observing without attaching judgement. I have to admit it: I chose this book because it seemed like an impossible topic to cover in a single book. Somehow, Armstrong manages to craft a rich, compelling narrative that never feels incomplete or rushed. Considering how sensitive, debatable, and historically questionable much of the content it, Armstrong does a marvellous job of traversing the history of the concept of god and its unique significance in all human societies.
She looks at how the three major religions developed, the links between them, the lives of their major figures and early followers, and how they helped them survive. Of particular interest, Armstrong states that many of their early followers were marginalised groups in society, like women and slaves, who were more amenable to a new system of belief that promised to improve their lot in life. Yet as those same religions evolved, they became a tool for subjugating those same people. I learned an extraordinary amount from this book and came away with a multitude of new perspectives. The downside is that the middle third or so gets far too into the weeds with terminology and combines far too many threads of thought for a reader without pre-existing knowledge of the topic to keep track.
Poirier manages to turn the chaos of human life, let alone dozens of human lives, into a neat, elegant narrative.
The ongoing undercurrent is an attempt to define what gave Paris its cultural significance at the time and since. Visiting Paris, the past always feels present, as if the and 50s linger around a corner. In London, the past is torn up as soon as possible, to make something new. Bourke carries out an extensive exploration of how we define humanity.
Throughout history, people have found endless ways to draw the line between human and animal, often to justify the exploitation of certain groups. People have used science as justification for their definitions and created entire pseudosciences to support their views. To discuss humanity is to discuss rights; who deserves what treatment and why. But as Bourke explains, it is more often rights that make the human, not the other way around.
He talks about his abusive father, about living on the streets, about his time as a sex worker, about malnutrition and drug addiction, about the suicide of a friend, about travelling and driving, and seeing or being subject to scenes of violence that are entirely unbearable to read. The essay where Wojnarowicz intersperses descriptions of a bloody bullfight he watched in Mexico with descriptions of his abusive father is particularly phenomenal and agonising.
Parts lapse into unabashed rants but, as with What Makes Sammy Run?
Blunders and Cures (The Mental Emotional Tennis Workbook Series)
And how much further we have left to go. And how important it is not to forget how recent the events Wojnarowicz describes were. Some books simply sink to the back of your memory about the final page, others linger around for weeks, odd words and phrases resurfacing at will.
This book is in the latter category and was the first book for a while to make me cry. Incidentally, I read this on a plane. Not on purpose. It is a good plane read, though. Fear of Flying is sometimes categorised as the first book to portray female desire, except, you know, actually written by a woman.
Along the way, she reflects on writing, femininity, her family, children, her early relationships, her mother, her husband, and all that. If she was, she fails. I had too many things to do. When this book arrived in the mail, I felt wildly sceptical about how anyone could possibly write a page book on Shakespeare.
Surely we know almost nothing about him? Somehow, Ackroyd achieves the impossible and writes what must be the most comprehensive biography of Shakespeare around, filling every page with rich detail without ever seeming to waffle or include irrelevant tangents. His research clearly left no stone unturned. It clearly takes enormous skill to build a narrative out of the fragmentary, often controversial and often contradictory, bits of information we have about the bard.
Related The Mental Emotional Tennis Work Book: Blunders and Cures
Copyright 2019 - All Right Reserved